Table of Contents

Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict Into Cooperation By Cynthia Klein   Table of Contents Introduction to Ally Parenting ……………………………………………………….1 How to Use This Book: A Quick-Start Approach ………………………………7 The Step-by-Step Solutions Guide ………………………………………………….11 Section 1...

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How to Melt the Wall Between Mothers and Daughters

The mother-daughter relationship is particularly challenging because both sides desire and value emotional connection, whether it’s negative or positive. Because of this deep desire, when circumstances erode the emotional connection, both parties feel hurt and can resort to unhelpful language and actions that further the divide. However, even after a wall has developed, I have guided many mothers with daughters ages 8 to 18 through the process of melting the wall. The length of time required to melt the wall depends on how deep the divide between mother and daughter has become. The good news is that your perseverance can create a reconnection. Some walls are thin. With these walls, as soon as you start the reconnection process, which I will discuss below, you can...

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The Importance of Chores and How to Get Them Done

Most parents know chores are important but getting them done is another matter. It’s an additional hassle when teenagers are loaded with homework and activities to the point that parents easily use “they’re too busy” as an excuse to let the chores slide. However, doing chores teaches children that everyone’s contribution to the family is important for creating a unified household. Even if you have paid help, each child needs to have chores because doing tasks builds their sense of being capable, belonging, and connected to a family which leads to higher self-esteem. Our basic need for family connection cannot be gained at school or through doing homework. When your children leave home, they will at some point be living with people who will expect them to...

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Introduction to Ally Parenting

Do you have a child who ignores you when you give directions, or argues with you like an attorney trying to change your mind, or refuses to talk to you other than with a few words or grunts? Do you sometimes feel that you and your children are more like adversaries than allies?  If you do, then Ally Parenting: A Non-Adversarial Approach to Transform Conflict into Cooperation is for you. Each of these challenges creates a painful wall between you and your child that can melt away with an Ally Parenting approach. This Ally Parenting book is the synthesis of twenty-two years of teaching parents through private parenting consultations, classes, and speaking engagements. Each chapter is an answer to questions parents have asked about how to get more cooperation from...

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